3 Things Every Child Needs to Hear

“Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.”

Colossians 3:21

Many adult problems stem from unresolved childhood trauma.  When I say that, two things happen.  1) Parents rush to defend themselves: “I did the best I could!  My children never wanted for anything!  They had it so much better than other kids!”  2) Adults rush to defend their parents:  “They did the best they could!  We never wanted for anything!  We had it so much better than other kids!”  

Let’s all take a deep breath.   Continue reading 3 Things Every Child Needs to Hear

Why God Loves to Love and How that Changes Everything

For years I misunderstood God. In my mind, He sought every opportunity to punish the wicked, particularly those who worshiped Him incorrectly. He loved His children but only out of obligation. If He allowed anyone into heaven, which almost never happened, He did so grudgingly. Continue reading Why God Loves to Love and How that Changes Everything

Pray to Connect

It’s easy to forget prayer’s purpose.  If we’re not careful, we can turn prayer into a genie session where our wish is God’s command, a therapy session where our goal is simply to feel better, or a list of empty phrases on repeat.  In the Psalms, prayer’s purpose was to connect with God.  Continue reading Pray to Connect

3 Goal-Setting Myths That Will Stunt Your Spiritual Growth

After she heard a new year’s sermon on goal-setting, Macy decided it was time to fix her broken life. Though she doubted she could change, she had to try. During the sermon, she wrote down four doable goals: 1) drink less alcohol, 2) use less profanity, 3) read her Bible a few times a week and 4) attend worship services most Sundays. Continue reading 3 Goal-Setting Myths That Will Stunt Your Spiritual Growth

You Can’t Handle 2019

I love a new year!  It’s a time of hope, fresh starts, renewed focus and determination.  But sadly, most new year’s resolutions are rooted in self.  They’re all about how I will change my life with my new sense of self-sufficiency and inner strength.  The truth is, you can’t handle 2019.  I can’t handle 2019.  We’re too weak and needy to handle it on our own.  Continue reading You Can’t Handle 2019

Why is Easy Sometimes So Difficult?

“Then his servants came near and spoke to him and said, ‘My father, had the prophet told you to do some great thing, would you not have done it? How much more then, when he says to you, ‘Wash, and be clean’?’” -2 Kings 5:13, NASB

Ironically, people are sometimes more willing to do difficult things than easy. Easy things seem beneath them. Too unsophisticated. They’d rather maintain their dignity and do something challenging than humble themselves and do something simple.  Continue reading Why is Easy Sometimes So Difficult?

Water – God’s Dividing Line

It’s fascinating how God uses water in Scripture as a dividing line between bad and good.  In the days of Noah, the earth was filled with violence.  God promised, “Behold, I, even I am bringing the flood of water upon the earth, to destroy all flesh in which is the breath of life…” (Gen. 6:13).  God used water to wipe away the sinfulness of the earth and start fresh.  It was the dividing line between corruption and cleansing, between old sinful life and a new beginning.  Continue reading Water – God’s Dividing Line