Are You in a Relationship Standoff?

Have you seen the insta-famous black car vs. silver car standoff?  Last week, a black car in Los Angeles drove past a parking spot to parallel park.  As he (or she?) put it in reverse, a silver car tried to pull in the spot from behind.  It was on!  Continue reading Are You in a Relationship Standoff?

When Patience is a Vice, not a Virtue

Americans lack patience. Big time. 

A prime example: our frustration with our smartphones when they take too long to process information — information which, by the way, travels to and from satellites orbiting the planet! Comedian Louis CK famously mocked impatient cellphone users by asking, “It’s going to space! Can you give it a few seconds to get back from space?!”

He makes a good point. We need more patience. Sometimes, however, we need less.  Continue reading When Patience is a Vice, not a Virtue

4 Ways Christians Abuse God’s Grace

When I was a teenager, Terry the pest control man came once a month to spray my parents’ house. We often talked about the Bible. In one conversation I asked him, “What if I murdered lots of people. Would I still be saved?” “Yes.” 

Dumbfounded, I said nothing. How could God tolerate such blatant abuse of His grace? Doesn’t God’s grace demand our obedience? 

A more important question is this: Do I abuse God’s grace and expect it to continue? I’m afraid sometimes I do. You probably do too. Here are four ways we abuse God’s grace. Continue reading 4 Ways Christians Abuse God’s Grace

When we Confuse the Created for the Creator, we Create Corruption

Celine Dion helps us understand Romans 1:25.  “For they exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshipped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever.  Amen.” 

That’s hard for me to admit because I love her music, but “my heart will go on,” and I hope yours will too.  Continue reading When we Confuse the Created for the Creator, we Create Corruption

3 Things Every Child Needs to Hear

“Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.”

Colossians 3:21

Many adult problems stem from unresolved childhood trauma.  When I say that, two things happen.  1) Parents rush to defend themselves: “I did the best I could!  My children never wanted for anything!  They had it so much better than other kids!”  2) Adults rush to defend their parents:  “They did the best they could!  We never wanted for anything!  We had it so much better than other kids!”  

Let’s all take a deep breath.   Continue reading 3 Things Every Child Needs to Hear

Why God Loves to Love and How that Changes Everything

For years I misunderstood God. In my mind, He sought every opportunity to punish the wicked, particularly those who worshiped Him incorrectly. He loved His children but only out of obligation. If He allowed anyone into heaven, which almost never happened, He did so grudgingly. Continue reading Why God Loves to Love and How that Changes Everything